Feeling too chicken for boudoir? Here are 13 ways to calm your nerves before a boudoir photography session.
Nerves are completely normal when it comes to a boudoir photography session. But with the right photographer and a positive mindset, boudoir could be the most fun you’ve ever had in front of the camera.
Here are 13 ways to calm your nerves before a boudoir photography session.
13 Ways To Calm Your Nerves Before A Boudoir Photography Session
1. Practice retail therapy
You know how slipping into a new dress gives you all the feels and instantly brings out your inner goddess? The same goes for lingerie. Sometimes all you need is a little something new to remind you that, in this exact moment, your body is still just as beautiful as ever.
The right lingerie can also help you feel better about those pesky insecurities. Check out our SchlickArt Ultimate Boudoir Lingerie Buying Guide to see what types of lingerie are best for each body type, as well as which pieces will flatter your trouble spots. Buying something that’s designed to cover your trouble spots puts your mind at ease when we start shooting … until you feel confident enough to switch into something more daring.
2. Pamper yourself, darling
A little extra self-care does wonders for your confidence. Sometimes all it takes is a fresh coat of polish and a DIY sugar scrub to make you feel like new again. Others may want the full pampering experience. In the days leading up to your shoot, try booking appointments for a mani-pedi, waxing, facial or sauna session. Anything that’s good for your skin, hair or nails is great. (Warning: Don’t do anything drastic to your hair in the days before a boudoir shoot – just in case it doesn’t come out the way you want it to.)
3. Hydrate, hydrate, hydrate!
It’s natural. We all get nervous about our weight leading up to a boudoir shoot. But you’re beautiful just the way you are! In fact, you don’t need to lose weight for your session. Instead, just hydrate! Staying well hydrated during the days before your session will give you a natural glow and decrease bloating, which makes even more of a difference than losing 5 pounds! Are you an overachiever? Try eating more veggies and less processed food for a week before your session. It cuts down on bloating even more.
4. Host a private, at-home fashion show
On a day when you’re feeling particularly good about yourself, find some privacy and do an at-home fashion show – for your eyes only. There’s no pressure, no audience. It’s just you. Pull out your favorite pieces of lingerie, and grab a few of your favorite items of clothing: a flattering sweater, a sheer scarf, his sports jersey, his dress shirt, your favorite statement jewelry … the options are endless. Lay it all out on the bed and start to mix and match. Wanna turn up the mood? Blast your favorite pump-up music and strut in front of a full-length mirror. Who said we had to stop playing dress-up just because we grew up?
Need some more ideas? Check out this blog: 7 Unexpectedly Sexy Boudoir Accessories.
5. Schedule a girls night
Need some feedback from your girls for a real confidence boost? Schedule a girls night a few days before your session. You can show them your Pinterest board of ideas and ask their advice on accessories. If you’ve got a super supportive girl tribe, you can even model a few of the outfits you’re considering. There’s nothing like a flood of compliments and reassuring advice from the women you love and respect most in the world, right?
6. Call your photographer
Getting some good advice from your girls is never a bad thing, but sometimes it helps to lean on the professionals. Everyone always has a few questions they’re stuck on. If you’re dwelling on a certain insecurity or over-analyzing your outfit choices, just pick up the phone and call Lindsay. She’s done this a million times before, and she can easily calm your nerves – usually with a simple reply of, “Don’t worry honey, I can Photoshop that.” And we promise there’s nothing too embarrassing to ask! In fact, Lindsay has done a boudoir shoot herself, so she knows personally all the questions you may be struggling with right now.
7. Choose a self-love mantra
Once you’ve planned and prepared for your session, and you’ve gotten all those embarrassing questions out of the way, it’s time to start reassuring yourself that this special photo shoot is going to be freaking awesome. Start approaching your session with some positivity instead. Choose a self-love mantra that really speaks to you and repeat it several times a day. The more you commit to this, the more you’ll get out of it. In fact, you can even take your biggest insecurity and practice telling yourself the opposite is true. Here are a few of our favorites:
- I am beautiful just the way I am.
- My imperfections make me uniquely beautiful.
- My beauty is worthy of being photographed and captured forever.
- My confidence soars higher each and every day.
- I am comfortable and confident in my own skin.
- Being beautiful comes easy to me.
- I am obsessed with becoming a woman comfortable in her own skin.
Want more body positive ways to love yourself? Check out this blog: How To Get Your Body Boudoir Ready.
8. Remind yourself why
For many women, the nerves can ramp up the night before the shoot and heighten as you get ready for your shoot. At SchlickArt, we do everything we can to keep you relaxed and happy from the moment you walk in the studio. We’ll have the music playing softly in the background. You’ll be greeted with Champagne and chocolates on your arrival. And your professional, red-carpet hair and makeup artist will be ready to pamper you with heavenly-scented products and soft brushes. The entire experience is designed to make you feel comfortable, relaxed and at ease.
But we’re not in your head. So if you’ve got negative thoughts running on repeat, then you’ll need something to distract you. During these moments, we suggest you focus on your “why.” it could be as simple as, “I deserve a day to feel beautiful,” or it could be something deeper like, “I’ve never had a great relationship with my body, but that changes today.” Whatever your reason is, hone in on it. Know what it is. Then use that as your mental focal point whenever the nerves start to creep in.
9. Speak up
During your boudoir photography session, the most important thing is to speak up. If you’re nervous – say it! Don’t feel comfortable with a pose? Let Lindsay know. She’s got 10 more up her sleeve anyway. Dying to try a certain pose? Show Lindsay your inspiration because she can make it happen. SchlickArt is a safe space for you to speak your mind and know that someone is listening with ultimate care. This session is about you, after all. It’s meant to be a beautiful experience and memory, just as much as it’s meant to capture stunning images.
10. Be present not perfect
And if you find yourself getting caught in your head, remember that you’re not supposed to be or look perfect for this shoot. You’re supposed to be you. That’s all. Lindsay will help you stay in the moment with easy-to-follow cues, lots of communication and, of course, some laughs. All you have to worry about is enjoying yourself.
11. Pick your playlist
Once it’s time to start shooting, we’ll turn up the music and get the party started. If you have a song or artist you love, let Lindsay know! Sometimes all it takes is the right anthem to put you in a good headspace and bring out your inner goddess.
12. Have a drink
A little liquid courage never hurt anyone in a boudoir photography session. We’ve got the Champagne flowing, but if you prefer something else, just let us know. Not into alcohol? We have a full coffee and tea bar. A hot cup of tea can be just as comforting as a glass of bubbly. We’re here to cater to you.
13. Trust the process
Finally, the most important thing is to simply trust the process. Lindsay has boudoir photography down to a fine science. Plus, she knows how to create an experience that makes it fun – not nerve-wracking. It takes no small amount of courage to drop the robe, but once you do, the nerves quickly dissipate. So go with it. Trust that Lindsay is shooting you from all the best angles. Trust that the lighting is just right, and your hair and makeup is perfectly on point. Trust that you’ll be in awe of your own beauty by the time you come back for your big reveal! Because if you do, you will have fun. By the time you’re done, you’ll wish you could do it all over again.
Finally, you may never have another experience like this again. So cherish it. Let yourself feel ridiculously glamorous and uniquely beautiful – because you are!
Your Boudoir Photography Session in Santa Clarita
SchlickArt’s boudoir style is as light, bright and beautiful as the smile on your face when you see your final images. We use natural light photography and stylized posing instruction, as well as an incredible selection of backdrops, lush furniture and gorgeous sets. Our images are retouched to perfection – making you look like you on your very best day. If you’re looking for boudoir in the Santa Clarita area, our 25 Days of SchlickArt Boudoir Sessions are the perfect way to capture how beautiful, sexy and confident you already are. This is Santa Clarita boudoir photography at its finest.
About Lindsay’s Photography for Women
With the mind of a businesswoman and the heart of an adventurer, Lindsay began to conceive of a different kind of Santa Clarita photography business. In her vision, stepping in front of the camera could be an empowering experience that gave her clients more than just a photograph — it would give people a new way of seeing themselves. With an eye for seeing the beauty in life and in others, Lindsay could use the camera to spread beauty.
About SchlickArt Photography and Video
SchlickArt, a boutique photo and video studio in Santa Clarita, started in March 2012 with the simple idea that empowerment creates a kind of beauty and authenticity that shines through every camera lens. Built on a philosophy — rather than a product, service or person — SchlickArt has rapidly evolved, meeting professional portraiture, business photo and business video needs as diverse as the community we capture. It’s the desire to take care of you, the client, that drives us at SchlickArt.